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January 4, 2015

To The Homeless That Departed In 2014


We are known by our names, or nick names. We are known by our family, friends, and people we say hi to that we meet on the street.

We are seen by each other, the people that pass us by, and those that help us.

We are loved by others in the homeless community, the ministries (SYM), our families from a far, our friends near and dear to us, the person on the street that says hello (or offers a kind word or a smile), from former homeless people, and our pets with their unconditional love. And loved by churches, social agencies, and others that welcomes us and makes us feel loved. We are loved by God!

*Note: I use the term we, because the homeless is not an other, but still part of society.

John 3:16-17

16 “For God so loved the world 
that He gave His only begotten Son, 
that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, 
but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not His Son into the world 
to condemn the world, 
but that the world 
through Him might be saved.
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This is dedicated to all homeless people around the world in 2014.

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July 8, 2013

Top Three Things I’d Do


I was asked recently a great question while speaking at All Saints’ Episcopal Church while presenting the ministry there to a group of 45 interested people. These were largely not novices at serving homeless people because they have several ministries there that directly serve homeless. The question was “If money weren’t an issue, what are the top three things you would do to help your clients.”
First, I’m going to give a different answer that I often give to parents of street youth asking what they should do. Here are my top three things that I think a parent should do if they have a street-dependent youth living on the streets of the USA:
A) Get your son or daughter a low end phones with internet. They are regularly on sale for $50 to $80. They may have it stolen from them, so don’t buy anything more. Purchase by the month a pre-paid plans ($35 or $40 per month gets unlimited texting, internet and calling). Don’t do a contract. Just stick with month by month. Your child can now keep in touch with friends of their choosing. They may even choose to stay in touch with you. They can research places where they can get help and call them. They can stay active on social medias. It’s a true lifeline. It’s not really a luxury in the USA.
B) Offer to purchase a hotel room about two nights a month to give your child a break. Living in constant crisis with no breaks leads to all sorts of physical, mental and emotional problems. Pay by phone and tell them not to give any type of cash refund for early check-out.
C) When your child decides to get a job and move from the street, help with deposit and living expenses for the first two weeks until they get paid. I would setup a bank account that you can both access and another that only you can access. Put money into the latter and setup a daily automatic transfer for a small amount into the first. Don’t’ micro-manage but don’t provide additional moneys beyond what you agree. They have to learn to make it but deposits and those first two weeks can be giant obstacles.
Now back to the question asked by the audience member. What would SYM do with unlimited funding? We are a faith-based organization. So first, we would make sure Christian volunteers and churches are used throughout the programs described below. We’d be an excellent employer of a volunteer coordinator and a communications coordinator. Together, volunteer and coordinators would:
1) Run a hostel with a kitchen. Active clients who attend indoor events at least three times this month, would get one room night (or something like that) and the option to exchange working at reception, kitchen, garden, or cleaning for additional room nights. All management and supervision jobs would be given to recovering street youth. Day labor jobs would be available in exchange for a room-night. This would be a legitimate hostile and we would welcome paying guests as well.
2) Operate a training center that works with some recognizable names in training to provide computer skills for real life (running a computer base cash register, waitress station, receptionist stations, etc.) and training in customer service. We’d operate a doggie day care offering grooming, walking and boarding services to the local neighborhood using clients who have been trained. They would compete for a set of “management” positions but all graduates of training classes could get overnight security, reception, advertising, crate cleaning, dog walking, and dog washing jobs.​
3) Augment government grants for school. FAFSA and governments grants do a great job for most homeless youth willing to attend community college. We’d only pick up certain outliers: felons, people who refused to register for draft, people who can’t satisfy residency, etc. We’d continue to buy college books for all clients who go to school and continue to qualify for government aid.
4) (a bonus) Form a hiring agency “co-op.” Clients join by paying a small amount each week (possibly even as low as $0.50). In return they can be selected by the membership as the “candidate.” All members work hard to get the “candidate” a job, pooling knowledge, networks, and talking straight to the “candidate” about clothing, hygiene, interview skills, attitude, presentation, habits, etc. The candidate signs a contract with the co-op to direct deposit 10% of paycheck for 3 months back to the co-op. Weekly paid members receive published job resources as well as snacks and access to meetings. The co-op pays other members of the group to watch pets or belongs of candidates.
5) (a double bonus) Form a detox facility for substance abuse. We would be a place willing to take in street youth client (attending at least 3 SYM indoor events in the month) for the purpose of detoxing from drugs or alcohol. They would stay there until a bed can be found in a longer term program. The goal of the detox facility is to always be able to get a spot open within 3 days. This would form a bridge buffer to rehab facilities that typically can only free a bed in 2-3 weeks. Two to three weeks is an eternity for a street-dependent youth.

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July 13, 2010

Bible Study Tension


Street Youth Ministry has an intern. That intern has led Bible study as a concluding event of his study with me to better prepare his as a pastoral candidate to help lead the church to work with homeless young people. I am very proud of my student!

The group dynamic changes every day in Bible study. Watching the intern explore the dynamic present one particular day reminded me of my first days of starting the Bible study, more than a year ago. He had something planned, and it totally flopped with this group. They just didn’t ever give it a chance. That happens some days to me, too. So he returned to the SYM default plan: read the next Bible chapter and explore it inductively in group discussion.

They read aloud the first paragraph of Matthew 23. Then one of the youth began to try to explain the passage. He was well versed in inductive Bible study, Jewish culture of the first century, and really took off. The youth was eloquent and intelligent but also very preachy. Nobody else joined in the conversation, and it was hard to “reel in” the speaker. After a bit, the intern began to express one of the rules that SYM uses: “We just look at what the Bible says. We don’t say what’s right or wrong. That way it’s safe for everyone–Christians, atheists, people of other faith, people of no faith.” That restarted the discussion. This this groundrules reinforced, they began discussing how the church leaders in Jesus’ (and Matthew’s) time were putting big burdens to be perfect on people, putting on big airs, and being very imperfect themselves. And they began discussing their own experiences of the church leaders today: “You’ll let me come here as long as I’m good, but when I need help, you tell me to get out. When I fall down or fall apart, you walk past me. When I admit my faults–and they are some big ones, you shun me.” Tough perceptions from a street youth with poverty, mental health, and other issues.

The intern asked, “Do you find the church to be burdensome or a blessing?” Stories immediately poured out about failed encounters with Christians and the church, but nobody answered the question. The intern pressed harder: “Is your experience of the church overall a burden or a blessing?” The tone changed and they shared insights: “You have to live for God. You have to submit to the path God sets for you. It’s easy to live in fear, and it’s much harder to live in peace and love. My experience of the church is a blessing.”

The tension of where their answers started and where they ended caught me by surprise. But later I realized that this tension captures a truth. We are all sinners. Reformed theology tells us that we are rotten to the core. We don’t deserve God’s grace, but God loves us anyway. But, as Christians, when we come together to form the church, we are the body of Christ. The very same individuals who sin every day form the perfect body of Christ at the same time. This is the source of the tension in the street youths’ statements. They experience terrible things from us, but they can also simultaneously see the church as a source of blessing. I believe they experience the church honestly as both a burden of the sinners and a blessing of the body of Christ.

The Bible study ended with prayer. Prayer requests from the youth included one for more tolerance, more love, more family connection between people who aren’t blood related. “Like at Thanksgiving. When Uncle Roland and Uncle Tito, who hate each other, manage to get along for the day. Pray for that.”

Jesus bore the burden. Let us take care not to put burdens on our brothers and sisters. Let us live in love, loving God with all our being and loving one another as Jesus loves us. Amen.

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September 29, 2008

Seeing Homeless Youth


Do you see homeless young people? If you live in an urban setting, I think it’s very likely they are there. Even if you live in a small town, I think they come to your town occasionally. They tell me so, anyway. I live in a big city. They are here. But I didn’t see them for 35 years of my life. They were invisible to me.

Street youth like to hang out in places they won’t stick out too much. If you have a university, chances are, they will be hanging out there. They are able to blend in better. Plus a university has a lot of people coming and going, so the chances for getting some attention (good or bad) is high. If not there, then a town square or around a fountain in the middle of town.
Do you notice them? It’s a little hard to look at homeless people. A friend of mine quoted a pastor saying, “I think a little bit of my humanity dies every time I avert my eyes from a homeless person.” I think this may well be truer than we want to admit.
Why is it hard? I think there are many reasons. Let’s look at some of the reasons that may keep us from seeing homeless youth.
First, there are the surface reasons. They are dirty. They are stinky. They may have sores and cuts and bruises. They may have fleas or scabies. Yes. They may not be very pleasant to look at — at least on the outside.
What else? Well, they don’t behave like we might like them to. That makes us uncomfortable to see the. They may say things that aren’t nice. They use language that we don’t like. They seem angry and may swear a lot. They may walk, move and make gestures that aren’t polite. They may be wearing things (or not wearing things) that make it hard to look at them because we don’t approve. They may seem drunk or high on something. Yes, we can be pretty uncomfortable seeing them because of these surface conditions — if we don’t look closer.
What else? They can make us fear for our safety. They may be dangerous. They may have stolen things. They could have weapons on them. They may be using drugs or drinking alcohol. They may have mental conditions that make it hard to control themselves. And then there are those fleas, lice and scabies again. We don’t want to get any of those bugs! Yes… the flight instinct kicks in and we want to flea from the sight of them. And if we don’t consider more, we will.
Is this all that stops us from seeing these people? I don’t think so. I think it’s more than how they are. I think many more reasons for not seeing the homeless are about how we are inside.
First, there is the fact that even when your curiosity gets the better of you and you do spend some time really looking at a homeless person, you suddenly feel like your gawking and you have to look away. Eye to eye contact is a very complex thing in our society. 
Once we have studied a homeless person when they aren’t aware of our stares (often through the eyes of someone else… a description, a photo, a video), our hearts starts to hurt  because we can’t help but think of many things. “What a waste of a young life,” we may thing. Or “What a shame that they have to live like they do.” Or “I wish he had a family that would take him in.” These are natural reactions to seeing a young homeless person. And having seen past the surface, you’re starting to have some empathy toward the street youth. However, we often pull away because it hurts. 
If you start to have empathy, you’re also probably going to want to “fix” things. This, too, is very natural. You might say, “I wish I could find a home for that young man.” Or, “I wish that young girl would go to the shelter so she could be safe.” “If only there were a better place to go.” Maybe you feel inclined to give something or buy them a meal or some items at the store. But then things get all complex. “What is OK to buy and give?” “Will I be feeding their pain, enabling them to live this way longer instead of getting help from a shelter?” “Should I give them money?” “Will they just by stuff that hurts them worse?” All of these are good questions, and you’re not going to know the answers. And this makes us once again pull away. It helps us to make the street youth invisible again. 
But I encourage you to take heart (literally). Your empathy and your desire to fix something are good. They can set you on a journey of learning and loving homeless youth.
There is also one more complex reason that we often choose not to see homeless youth. Sociologist tell us the homeless youth are a “sub-culture” unto their own. This also implies that the mainline culture is the “dominant culture” to homeless youth. These two cultures, the sub-culture and the dominant culture, live in relationship with one another. They exchange things. They need each other. They feed off each other. 
I believe that we are aware of these cultural relationships (between street youth culture and the main culture) at a pretty subconscious level and this causes us great fear and hurt. You may already have some ideas or guesses about how the two cultures feed off one another and need one another. It isn’t generally a pretty relationship. I don’t really want to go into it in today’s blog, but the street youth have relationships with the dominant culture in many ways: with their parents, with their foster parents, with those who operate shelters, with those who give them money and food handouts. Few of these relationships are good, loving, or healthy. And many may have relationships that are far worse: with abusing or abandoning adults, with adults who beat them, with adults who pay for sex with them, with adults who buy drugs from them.
When we become aware of this relationship between homeless youth and normal culture, it can truly shock us. And our reaction can be to withdraw and see nothing at all, feel nothing at all. I don’t think most people are aware of this relationship directly, but almost everyone knows of the horrible things that happen to street youth. Think of the TV shows you’ve seen that feature runaway children. I think you have more information in your head than you know directly about the relationship between street youth and normal culture.
That’s enough for today. Thank you for reading. I hope that you will take all my comments with the understanding that I love and respect street youth. I see them every day. They are unbelievably strong inside. They are courageous. But they have the terrible misfortune of a past that they do not deserve. And it has crippled them and threatens them with a future that no one wants.
I think the first and perhaps biggest gift we can give these street youth, is to see them…. to simply see them. Notice them, make eye contact with them. Acknowledge they are there with a nod.  If you can, overcome all your internal feelings and reactions and smile at them. Maybe waive at them. As you go on about your day, say a prayer for them on the spot. They need energy, hope, and the ability to cope with an immediate crisis of either food, clothing, shelter, health or safety… and sometimes all of them at once.
September 23, 2008

Healing Service


During my transition from working in high tech to becoming a full time homeless youth intern social work and missionary, I worked at a place called Cream and Sugar. Here is an article that I wrote for their newsletter. Check it out. At the time of writing, I hadn’t decided yet to make the transition but you can tell from my words and expressions that I was getting close.

Take a look.
September 20, 2008

A New Beginning


I am making a new beginning. I am a forty something year old man who is leaving a high tech career and to work with youth who live on the street. I suppose you could call this transition my midlife transition. However, I am excited.

I am leaving high tech career of 25 years to serve the homeless youth of Austin, Texas. I have been doing this as a volunteer for 5 years but the time has come to do this full time. I have the loving support of my family and a large church community so I do not start this journey alone. I do not know what lies ahead exactly, but I am very excited.
What I hope to discuss in future postings:
Questions I get asked frequently that I will try to address in future posts:
If you have other questions, feel free to add comments and I’ll try to address them.

Meaty subject from social work:

  • What causes homelessness in youth?
  • Why don’t programs work to make this better?
  • How long does it take to get better?
  • Harm reduction theory
  • Theory of personal change
I’m not an expert in these subjects, but I am getting daily practial and academic training from my fellow social workers. I am a volutneer intern / adjust staff member working under the supervision of several licensed masters social workers who provide support services to several hundred street youth every year.
Meaty subjects from Christian world view that I plan for future postings:
  • Why don’t they come to church?
  • What do they hate Christianity?
  • What can my church do?
If you have other question, feel free to post them. I am a Christian. I study my bible daily. I am a member of a thriving church community. I serve homeless people daily with three other missionaries. I am an intern misisonary on their team. I get practical training and instruction daily. I am also on a mission board of a local church.
A look back:
  • How did this all start for me?
  • What did I leave high tech? Surely I could do more good making money and giving it to the poor?
  • Why do I believe in direct support services?
  • Why do I believe in evanglizing?
  • Why do I believe in harm reduction?
  • Why do I believe in community education?
  • Why do I believe we need more advocacy with government bodies?
  • How do I support myself?
  • Was this an easy decision? Why did it take 5 years to do this?
  • What does my family think of my decision?
God has opened many doors for me in the past 5 to 8 years. He has closed many, too. Every person’s journey into sacrificial service is personal and unique. I have had many mentors and advisors along the way. I owe much of my sanity and sense of peace to them.